A Couple Women Toy Should Always Be Used Responsibly

A sex toy can open up a conversation about sexual pleasure, and encourage experimentation that’s good for your relationship. But don’t forget that it should always be used responsibly.

These couples’ toys are designed to add extra stimulation during penetrative sex. They stimulate the G-spot, clitoris and penis — for both partners to enjoy.

Vaginal Vibrators

Many people use vibrators in the vagina, and there are a lot of options to choose from. For internal play, consider a G-spot vibrator, which is designed to stimulate the front wall of the vagina. Experiment with positioning, pressure and movement and enjoy the sensations while your partner provides stimulation by licking and sucking.

You can also try a bullet vibe for concentrated, direct stimulation. A tapered tip can be used to tease the clitoris, and the slender body of the bullet can be used to work on other parts of the labia. For a more exotic experience, try a sleeve-like vibrator, such as the Ignite from Lovehoney. The soft, stretchy silicone slips over the head and shaft of the penis to add girth and vibrations.

Finally, a finger vibe is another great option for clitoral and anal pleasure. Apply a little water-based lubricant to the wide end of the vibe, which can be inserted between you and your partner and enjoyed as a clitoral massager or for penetrative anal play.

If you’re both feeling adventurous, you can even try a doggy style. Have one partner lie down on the edge of the bed and put a pillow under their butt for some lift. The other partner can then stand or kneel behind them and control the toy to use it on their nipples, anus, vulva and clit.

Cock Rings

Often made from silky-smooth silicone and fitted with mighty mini motors or bullet vibes, cock rings are a Cosmo office favourite for paired play. They can also double as clitoral stimulators and are a great choice for couples new to toys (they’re cheaper than most vibrators). Lube is your friend with these tight-fitting sex toys, which should be snug but not painful or uncomfortable. Choose a ring that’s easy to remove during sex, such as one with a built-in release or a fastener (not Velcro) so you can slip it off during penetrative sex like cowgirl or missionary.

Besides making for great clitoral and vulva stimulation, cock rings can enhance penile pressure during foreplay, says sexologist Antonia Hall. They’re also effective in boosting erections and delaying ejaculation. This is because the pressure from a ring restricts blood flow, allowing your penis to remain hard for longer, says urology physician assistant and sexuality counselor Aleece Fosnight.

Putting on a cock ring is simple – just slide it over your penis while it’s flaccid Women Masturbator Couple Women Toy or semi-erect and stretch it down to the base of your testicles. If you want a little more help, try a textured or vibrating variety. Once the ring is in place, have your partner climb on top and grind against it for extra pleasure. If you have an over-the-counter ring, simply use lots of water-based lube to slide it on.

Sex-Position Pillows

While the idea of a sex pillow may sound kinky, they’re a useful tool for couples who want to explore new positions. Whether it’s lifting your hips for missionary, providing the right angle for oral or pelvic stimulation, or offering leverage for thrusting, intimate positioning pillows like this wedge-ramp combo from Liberator can add new sensations to sexual encounters with a partner or alone.

Using a pillow can help eliminate anal pain and tense pelvic muscles, which often occur with deep penetration, notes Dr. Ingber. It can also improve the flow of blood to the anal and clitoris, encouraging orgasm and making for a more enjoyable experience. “For many women, sex with a partner in doggy position (one that straddles the back and butt) can feel a lot like a ride on a pony,” she says.

However, before you go crazy in the bedroom with sex pillows, it’s best to start slow and introduce them into your routine gradually. It’s also smart to talk to your partner about what you want from a pillow and how kinky you both want to get. This way, you can avoid any discomfort or unexpected effects. Also, make sure to wash your pillow regularly. This will reduce the risk of STIs. A few other important things to remember:

Lube

While healthy vaginas secrete plenty of natural lubrication, adding more can ease friction and boost sensation. Plus, if you’re trying out new positions or techniques with toys like the Liberator or a cockring, less friction means more comfort—and more play.

The best lubes for couples, in my humble opinion, are water-based ones. They’re easy on the skin and compatible with all types of sex toys. Plus, they usually don’t contain glycerin, which can draw moisture from the body and increase the likelihood of yeast infections.

If you want something a little more potent, try a silicone-based lube that’s also paraben-free. My favorites include the smooth, slippery Roam and a super fun, fruity Durex Naturals Moisture. Both are long-lasting and comfortable enough for penetrative sex.

Non-invasive toys that stimulate both the clitoris and internal stimulation (think nipple clamps or paddles) are great for lesbian couples. Or try Eva, a mini toy by Dame that tucks under the labia majora to vibrate internally and externally and can be worn with or without a penis.

Regardless of which toys you choose, I highly recommend introducing the idea in a non-sexual situation and giving your partner time to get used to the idea before bringing out the toys. Then, take the initiative to use them together. But don’t tie the toys to a critique of or frustration with sex—that just plays right into any underlying insecurities your partner may have.